when we lost
our son
we lost
each other
~
we were shells
empty
hurting
voids
~
different ways
of grieving
disconnected
us
~
our raw pain
forced unrealistic
expectations
upon ourselves
~
feeling
emotionally abandoned
unable to help
heal
~
I’m sorry
I let you down
when you needed
me
~
I’m learning
to forgive
myself
~
Geo Sans 
Unfortunately, that is a very common occurrence for that situation… : (
chances for couples
50 / 50
after a loss
~
communication can be so hard …
My parents went through this harrowing experience, I think it changed their marriage forever. But at least I was able to cheer them up a bit, being the unplanned baby that came after those dark days. I was never a replacement for their daughter, but I made them laugh again!
I think you’ve written this well, says everything as it really is!
Thanks Suzy.
Our daughter
has the same magic
you had…:)
From an outsider’s perspective, I would say that no apologies are needed in a situation like that, but the fact that you offer one shows how deep your love is. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
thanks Kozo
Forgiving yourself is often the hardest part.
probably
the catholic upbringing
lacing everything
with guilt
I wasn’t raised catholic. I am hardest on myself.
Forgiveness is not for the weak of heart.
toughest
thing
ever
so heartbreaking, but you’re finding your way back, I pray it’s together! :)
we’re always
in our hearts
Perhaps you may want to try writing a letter of forgiveness to yourself. I’m so very sorry for your loss. *hugs*
maybe
this blog
is the metaphor
of that ?
Perhaps :) – I hope you accept your forgiveness.
My God, your heart is in pieces here. This is heart wrenching.
xx
years ago
it was one of many
dark places
~
now
is a time
for looking
learning
~
then
letting go
Ah, letting go…
It is so hard to watch from the outside a body wreaking havoc on our loved one(s), supporting yourself and everyone else is tightrope walk, especially when dealing with self preservation.
From experience, it is hard to do it the ‘right’ way, you will always feel like it is not enough and the emotions on others are your weight to bare, but they are not.
Forgiveness is one of lifes greatest joys, but it is a hard one to feel completely.
almost 7 years
the time
distances
allows one to allow
trauma
to view again
~
with softness
understanding
No words I have can approach your grief and hurt. Just know, please, that I care. Thank you for being a part of my blog. Welcome in.
thankfully
many years ago
I’ll always carry the pain
the vulnerability
connects me
heals me
different ways
of grieving
disconnected
us
POWERFUL WORDS MY FRIEND.
a hard process
distinguishing
personal truths
versus
universal truths
Yes, these are powerful words – thanks for sharing. Our daughter and son-in-law have gone through the same experience. We’ll share this with them. Thanks also for following our blog, Ian Moore-Morrans, Scottish Canadian Author and Gayle Moore-Morrans, Editor and Blogger. We appreciate it.
I’m sorry
to hear about your daughter
and son-in-law’s tragedy
~
I hope
they are healing
Beautiful, heartfelt….
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Beautiful, thank you for these words. My partner and I are finding ourselves in a new and different relationship than it was before my daughter’s death last year. Continuing to shift and change, and with great love, not knowing what will come, but that’s always true…
I’m very sorry
for your loss
Lucia
~
trees
growing beside
each other
~
keep trusting
your love
during all the confusion
~
you’ll grieve
grow
at different times
~
and that
is
okay
Men and women grieve differently.
maybe
~
all individuals
I love that you used the word “learning” to forgive yourself
Emotional Intelligence
None of us is born knowing
how to react and cope with grief
some say
all
behaviour
is
learned
This I understand far too well. Beautiful beautiful poem.
thanks
for commenting
and
following
~
your poetry blog
is
wonderful
Awe you’re welcome and thank you too!
Insightful, honest, accomplished.
thank you
~
I’m still learning
working towards
a sense of
accomplished …
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Beautifully and eloquently expressed. I think it is only human in such trying situations to retreat into oneself, this moved me very deeply.
it takes time
to
listen
~
to one’s heart
Very powerful words you have penned in such beautiful words…I am so sorry for your losses for after the loss of a child there are many losses…the hardest is forgiving oneself…blessings to you. Know that guilt is also part of that painful process of grief, I think it is the most difficult.
learning to forgive
~
starting to truly live
in love
to live in love with self first is a gift we need to strive for.